Are You Choosing To Fail?
Earlier today I received this email from someone who had joined my team earlier this week. “I need to disenroll because all of this is just too complicated for me. I can’t do it. Please don’t tell me I can.” What intrigues me about this email is that my assistant called this person to set up a one on one coaching call….no response. This email was sent as a reply to a training notification for an open discussion training with the team. This individual made a choice to fail from the very beginning.
Let’s take a look at this downward spiral.
- They joined a program without asking questions – what does it entail? What skills do I need? How much time do I need to invest? What will it cost to keep it going?
- They refused to be teachable – did you notice the words “..this is just too complicated for me. I can’t do it. Please don’t tell me I can…
- They gave up without even trying
Sadly, this individual will move on and join countless other programs that will all end with the same result….and similar excuses I might add. Each time they will find a self-sabotaging excuse for why it is impossible for them to succeed in the program. “It’s too complicated…” “I didn’t know I would need an autoresponder…” “My upline didn’t call me….”
At the end of the day, failure is as much a result of your choices as is success. There comes a point when each of us must realize that ultimately the choice to succeed or fail rests with us. Once the decision is made to succeed, there can be no turning back…no matter what challenges lie in our path.
This individual had a choice to make. They were faced with something that seemed complicated and overwhelming. Let’s look at some of the other choices that could have been made other than to simply quit. For starters this individual could have chosen to take advantage of the offer for personal coaching and group coaching. This individual could have chosen to become a student of the unfamiliar and learn the craft. This individual could have chosen to invest in training that would equip them with the skills they are currently lacking. This individual could have chosen to press forward and learn through trial and error.
Each of these choices would have enlarged the knowledge and skill sets of this individual. In turn their knowledge and experiences would have become more valuable to the marketplace. Not only has this individual deprived themselves of the opportunity for personal growth, but they have also deprived others of the opportunity to be enriched through them.
What Are You Choosing?
Take a look at your own pattern of behavior. How many programs have you quit in the last 18 months? Are you guilty of taking the same approach to life that this individual has? Are you allowing yourself to be teachable? Are you looking for ways to broaden your skills and abilities?
At the end of the day it comes down to a saying I learned as a child…Quitters Never Win and Winners Never Quit!